How to Build Trust in Long Distance Relationships
Basically, a relationship is like a banana: the more you peel, the more you will taste the sweetness. When you can't see your partner every day or even every week, it's important to trust in your love and the strength of your relationship to keep you both happy and healthy.
Part 1 of 3: Building Trust
1 Get to know your partner well. You need to be confident in your knowledge of and love for your partner in order to build a relationship that you can both believe in.
· Ask each other questions. Ask about what your partner likes and dislikes, what she wants to do in the next year or five years, where she's been, who her friends are -- anything can spark a story and get a great conversation going.
· Play games to get to know each other. To play Two Truths and a Lie, tell your partner two true things and one false thing about yourself, and have her guess which is the lie. Or make a quiz about yourself and send it to her.
· Use multiple methods of communication. Talking on the phone is great for certain kinds of conversations. Email encourages more thoughtful discussions of weightier topics, while texting is great for a quick, light-hearted chat. Use more than one method of communication to get to know all sides of your partner.
2 Commit to the relationship. Discuss topics like what you want to get out of the relationship and where you see it going. Commit to the trust and communication that sustain a long-distance relationship.
3 Be reliable. Encourage your partner to trust you by always proving yourself worthy of her trust. Follow through on your promises, even the small ones like calling her at a specific time or responding to a message.
Part 2 of 3: Maintaining Trust
1 Talk to your partner often. It's hard to believe in a relationship when you never talk to your partner, and it's hard to build a relationship when you don't know what's going on in your partner's life. Make sure you talk often so that you can participate in her life, and you can feel her presence in yours.
2 Be open with your partner. Honest and open communication is just as important as talking often. If something is worrying you, your partner should be the first to know. If she's feeling upset or frustrated, she should be comfortable opening up to you.
3 Get to know your partner's friends and family. This will allow you to better understand your partner's daily life, and being friendly with the people in her life can help both of you feel more involved with each other. Her friends will also appreciate the chance to get to know the person taking up so much of her time and energy.
4 Give your partner space. Although you may want to spend every moment of every day talking with her, recognize that she needs time and space to live her own life. Don't pressure her to give you more of her time and energy than she's comfortable with. Trust that she will come to you when she needs to, and allow her the space to be her own person within your relationship.
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Check in with your partner regularly. Discuss how you both feel about how your relationship is going. Talk about whether you feel happy, comfortable, and confident in the relationship, and what each of you could do to make it even better. If one of you feels dissatisfied for any reason, discuss the problem and work together to figure out a solution that you're both comfortable with. .
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Common Pitfalls
1 Never accuse your partner of being unfaithful. This cannot be stressed enough. A long-distance relationship, even more so than any other relationship, is predicated on mutual trust, and accusing your partner of cheating, or even of wanting to cheat, destroys that trust on both sides of the relationship
2 Address disagreements calmly and rationally. As with any relationship, it's inevitable that you will at some point get annoyed or angry at each other. When this happens, address the conflict calmly. Discuss your disagreement. Make an effort to understand her side, and explain to her how you feel.
3.Think about the sacrifice you're both making. Understand that a long-distance relationship is difficult for both of you and requires a lot of work and effort, when there are many other things you could be doing with that time and energy.
4. Expand your conversations to keep them from getting boring. If the only thing you talk about is what you did that day, you're bound to get bored pretty fast, and this can quickly take the heat out of your relationship.
5 Plan your next visit. Even if you can't see each other often, always have a place and date set for the next visit.
1 Never accuse your partner of being unfaithful. This cannot be stressed enough. A long-distance relationship, even more so than any other relationship, is predicated on mutual trust, and accusing your partner of cheating, or even of wanting to cheat, destroys that trust on both sides of the relationship
2 Address disagreements calmly and rationally. As with any relationship, it's inevitable that you will at some point get annoyed or angry at each other. When this happens, address the conflict calmly. Discuss your disagreement. Make an effort to understand her side, and explain to her how you feel.
3.Think about the sacrifice you're both making. Understand that a long-distance relationship is difficult for both of you and requires a lot of work and effort, when there are many other things you could be doing with that time and energy.
4. Expand your conversations to keep them from getting boring. If the only thing you talk about is what you did that day, you're bound to get bored pretty fast, and this can quickly take the heat out of your relationship.
5 Plan your next visit. Even if you can't see each other often, always have a place and date set for the next visit.
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